All – I thought I’d repost this old blog. Someone told me this was post-traumatic growth – probably true. In the end, we have a choice to buckle or grow from our trauma, but then, that’s a pretty obvious choice, isn’t it?
This twenty-year marriage had a happy ending: divorce.
It’s not what you think, completely. Yes, the divorce was the right thing to do and we all felt better afterwards, or we would not have made that difficult decision. But despite the many years of struggle and anguish, Dave and I had a good marriage. Let me explain.
I should start by saying that Dave and I had what is probably a typical marriage. Like most couples we were attracted to each other and fell in love because of our unidentified and unmet emotional needs. We felt “complete” with each other because our partner reflected a chance to heal our emotional shortcomings. Trouble begins when the euphoria wears away and you’re left primarily with the challenge of actually healing yourself. The opportunity that is marriage is that it provides the laboratory, lab partner and the incentive to avoid an “F” to…
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