How much of your day is spent mindlessly doing what we always do? Granted, much of our day has to be just that; having to consciously do every task as if we have never done it before would take all of our effort and attention. But perhaps a few of the things we believe to be necessary tasks, are really not necessary at all. Perhaps they’re even harmful or counterproductive. I challenge each of you to re-examine your day as you go about it. Just one day. Pay close attention to what you do and why you’re doing it. Are you acting out of habit, necessity, desire, or because of someone else’s (or your own) expectations? What are those expectations? I would suspect a significant part of our day is spent without deliberate intention. We may find that once we carefully examine our motivation for each task, that most of our tasks are consistent with our authentic goals and desires. But likely, some fraction will not. Some of our tasks are done out of habit of what we tend to notice or believe. For example, if I only notice what makes me tired, then I will feel tired and find ways to rest. If I notice things that give me energy, I will feel energized and continue to pursue those tasks. If I notice things that make me feel sad, I’ll feel depressed and need to find ways to soothe myself. These beliefs and habits tend focus our intentions, and thus our actions. That is fine, as long as the task and beliefs are consistent with our authentic goals and desires. What would happen if you gave up those observations, tasks, beliefs, and assumptions that divert you from your life’s plan? Or just modified them? What if you then took that increasingly precious time and energy and did something that would feed or nourish your spirit? I think it’s easy as a parent or spouse to get into habits of doing things for other people, even if it’s not good for them or they’ve outgrown it. I recall a conversation a long time ago when we discussed asking our six year old to start getting his own breakfast. At first it felt like we had suggested we amputate a good leg. But guess what? He did a great job (except for the one time when he tried to put a chicken thigh in the toaster). If you can identify one thing that you have been doing out of habit that you now realize you should change, consider adding this new perspective to your daily outlook. Remember, what we notice is habit, how we tend to think about what we notice is usually habit, and what we do as a response is often habit. We can change our habits if they are not serving us well. Go on. Change something. Create new habits, perspectives and beliefs that nourish your spirit.