You know how the You that you are right now feels entirely natural? Probably you’ve been that version of You for a long time, and she feels right to you.
Well sometimes that You is actually You v.2 (or some larger number), and though she may feel natural to you, she may feel different and alien to other people. Granted, any feeling of weirdness in your relationship may actually originate from Her. Maybe she’s moved onto v.2, not you. Or maybe you both have changed.
The more that you change, the more that you may feel awkward around those that have always felt comfortable to you. On the other hand, you may find that people who previously escaped your notice or were annoying may now seem fascinating and compelling, since you may now see them in a new light.
That new light also applies to those that you know well, and that new perspective may or may not be flattering.
The reverse is true too. As you change, others will see you in a new light, and they may or may not like what they see. But once you have a new perspective on life, it’s hard to return to the old one. Evolving into yet another new perspective or belief system, i.e. You v.3, is possible, but there’s no guarantee that the new belief system will make that relationship comfy again.
But you know, life happens. Our lives change. It’s inevitable. Change may mean that we have to redefine our old relationships on new terms. However, those new terms may improve the relationship, especially if we’re leading the change with our newfound wisdom and patience.
However, I feel it is important to do a gut check during all this change. If your increasing wisdom and patience is causing more fights and tension with loved ones, maybe you’ve not yet grown your wisdom and patience. You may be growing in other directions, which may be a good thing, but realize that your change may not make much sense to others. Perhaps an extra dose of forgiveness and gratitude (both for yourself and those around you) would help smooth the interaction until you do find acceptance, positive perspective and patience from your change.
Imagine yourself as the teenager in the house. That teenager is undergoing rapid change. Don’t you just wish she’d show a little patience, tolerance and openness?