Did you know that optimists are happier and more successful than pessimists? It really does pay to cultivate your optimistic side.
I can just hear the pessimists grumbling under their breath that optimists are unrealistic and Pollyanna-ish. It’s true. We do tend to overdo it sometimes. I tend to go straight to starry-eyed idealism way too quickly. On the other hand, I contend that pessimists tend to go into the Debbie Downer too quickly, dragging down the collective energy and motivation.
What is viewed by scientists as the right balance for that optimism/pessimism spectrum is called realistic optimism. In other words, keep your optimism within the realm of do-able to optimize your ability to move forward but in a sensible manner.
I know I need reminders of this on a daily basis as I set overly ambitious schedules and task lists for myself, and worse yet, for others. I know that I create unnecessary stress for everyone with my over-ambitious scheduling or goals. Here is where realistic optimism could really help improve my quality of life, relationships and even health.
Though realistic optimism has real benefits in certain situations, I counter that there is also room for unrealistic optimism, albeit at much smaller doses. For example, do you think Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Usain Bolt, J.K. Rowling, Stephen Spielberg, and YoYo Ma always settle for realistic optimism? How do breakthrough performances and technology occur without dreaming, risk and failure? What fun is it to play it safe at everything we do? Is there not room, or even a need, for ambition in the areas of our passion?
Be realistically optimistic, except for one goal in one area of your life. For you, where and what would that be? If you can change your corner of the world just a tiny bit, how would you do it? What would it be? How can you make it happen, one realistic bite at a time?