Sometimes you don’t know what you don’t know. Actually, I feel safe in generalizing that we consistently, predictably, inevitably don’t know what we don’t know. There is so much about our physical world that is unknown, and that world is for the most part, largely observable and measurable. Now consider our emotional/psychological world. Much of … Continue reading Your Shadow Self
Complexity, by definition, is difficult to comprehend, so our minds often prefer to view life from a simper either/or or black/white perspective. I’m right, you’re wrong. This is good, that is bad. Rarely is life so cut and dry; in most cases life happens on a spectrum from black to white, good to bad, with … Continue reading Guidance from Spirit – It’s Weird, Right?
In Parts 1 and 2, I wrote about the thinking-feeling spectrum and how our tendency to prefer T or F leaves a shadow tendency that seems to play a strong but invisible role in how we feel and behave. I likened it to an ambivalent, sometimes hostile alien that resides within us, sometimes exerting a … Continue reading Part 3: Thinking-Feeling Spectrum: Befriend Your Alien Brain
I spent much of my life with a pretty superficial self-awareness and self-expression with only occasional incursions to find my deep truth. However, I ignore the ongoing undercurrent of my truth at my own peril. What do I mean by my truth? I think of my truth in 3 levels. The first level is in … Continue reading Your Gut-Wrenching Truth
Or if it’s not, then it should be. At least that’s how it feels when I’m having a bad day. I wouldn’t ever phrase it that way, but that’s pretty much how I would be feeling. Pay attention to me. Listen to me. Understand me. Agree with me. Do it my way. Say something nice … Continue reading It’s All About Me (IAAM)
We all have shadow beliefs, most of them unhealthy. A shadow belief is one that we’re unaware of and frequently impacts our behavior and world view. For this reason, I feel it is important for us to identify our shadow beliefs so that we can deal with them so that they do not unduly color … Continue reading An Abundance Mentality
Leadership is an oft discussed topic, but mainly in the context of work. What does leadership mean in terms of one’s personal life? Is it even relevant for our personal lives? Let’s think about this for a minute. If leadership at work means acting congruent with your values and morals, serving others and the larger … Continue reading Personal Leadership
Though I feel the VIA character strength construct, available for free at authentichappiness.com, will be hard to sell to people at work (scientists being told their number one strength is forgiveness?) oddly I believe that my strength of capacity to love and be loved is the most important strength I exhibit at work and home … Continue reading Loving Versus Being Loved – A Big Difference
So much of our world is created by our cognitive habits. What we notice is often habit, how we interpret what we notice is often habit. Our beliefs are often habit too. For example, there was a really long period of time where I did not take a look at the opposite political persuasion to … Continue reading What You Focusin’ On?
We are all taught how to have good dental and physical health, as we know involves exercise, brushing regularly, eating right. But few of us are taught the fundamentals of having healthy emotional relationships with self and others. It’s something so fundamentally important, yet they are lessons most of us must learn on our own, … Continue reading Emotional Health 101 – A Mini Primer