As children, we were all told, “Don’t tell stories” – meaning, don’t lie. That line, in and of itself, is a bit of a lie, isn’t it? As adults, we’re still telling stories, and lies about the stories. They are really fairy tales. There’s a helpless and virtuous victim, and an evil villain. And usually … Continue reading (Uncover Your)Truth or (Suffer the) Consequences
‘No justice, no peace’ We all understand this phrase in the context of our larger society. If we don’t have fairness, due process, appropriate consequences, and a semblance of equal opportunity, we cannot have a harmonious society. The most evident examples of this philosophy can be seen with events such as the OJ Simpson … Continue reading Equity and Diversity in Name Only
I hadn’t actually heard the term before, but when I googled it, it turns out bully leadership is a thing. It’s several steps beyond an authoritarian leader, since while both authoritarian and bully leaders fail to obtain input from others, bully leaders use fear and intimidation as their primary tools for influence. Though that style … Continue reading Our Responsibility Regarding Bully Leaders
Even though I’ve been an atheist most of my life (now, spiritual), I’ve been glued to the coverage about Pope Francis’ visit to the US. This 78-year old man has maintained a grueling schedule but continues to light up every time he greets his flock. In contrast, I couldn’t help noticing that when doing the … Continue reading Pope Francis-Style Leadership
We are constantly evaluating and being evaluated. Grades, applications, audits, performance indicators, reviews, evaluations, assessments, appraisals, exams, measures. And those are the external evaluations. We also have the constant litany of internals comparisons: Is he/she more/less successful/smart/thin/interesting/accomplished/talented/wealthy/attractive/likable/famous/stylish/better/lovable than me? Sometimes those comparisons and assessments come from others, often giving credence to our worst fears or … Continue reading What Is Your Value?
Competition is a strength that helps people to be successful in sports and beyond. When used optimally, competition energizes, creates fun, and helps individuals and teams to elevate their performance. On the other hand, collaboration also has advantages. Collaboration broadens ideas, expands capacity, and allows for innovation that may not occur when working independently or competitively. … Continue reading To Compete or Collaborate?
The old adage, “it’s better to give than receive” is really true. Givers are not only more successful than takers, but givers also experience more positive emotion than those on the receiving end. There are limits to giving; givers that give indiscriminately risk burnout. Instead, givers should give in a way that benefits and feels … Continue reading Giving Without Burnout
I’ve known about the ripple effect for some time now but haven’t given it a whole lot of thought until recently. Here’s an example of the ripple effect: I may decide to change my dress right before I leave for an interview across town, leave a bit later, then get caught right behind an accident … Continue reading Ripple Effect
I hope by now everyone is familiar with the 2×2 grid of urgent/important, which teaches us that we should be focusing our time on what is important (and possibly urgent) and less time on the unimportant (and often urgent). For example, that shoe sale that ends at 5 pm is urgent, but my closet will tell … Continue reading The Squeaky Wheel
Does anyone want their legacy be to leaving their corner of the world worse off because of their presence? Perhaps some of us may believe that this will inevitably be our fate, particularly on a bad day. But is that ever anyone’s intention? I’ve heard people say that when they’re in a bad mood, they … Continue reading Energy Management and Impact on Others, Part II